Ready to break this cycle you're in?
It's time to start a new chapter.
Because this one is musty and dusty. Every day feels like walking on a tightrope: you're just one shady text from your friend away from a spiral that can last days. It's exhausting, overwhelming, and you find yourself up at night, tossing and turning.
It's been so long since you've felt like yourself that maybe you don't even remember who she is.
Part of you is worried she's gone forever.
You've come to the right place
I'm Eleanor Hamilton-Wohl, and as a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, I help people-pleasing women like you- ones that have it in them to build the relationships they want- they just need some help to get there. My role is to be like a mirror for you: helping you figure out what's going wrong and how to fix it. I'll help you hone the tools you need to change your life.
A lot of therapists and coaches out there will just focus on managing the "symptoms" of what's going on with shortcuts and worksheets. Not here.
We'll get to the root of the problem and work on healing there first. A lot of times this is around not feeling good or worthy enough. We'll build you an individualized tool kit to handle those thoughts when they pop up and threaten to derail your day.
Through our work together, you'll be able to identify what you want (& what you don't) and how to get it. You'll break free of others' expectations and build confidence to build the life you want.
Helping others live an authentic, joyful life is my goal
I am dedicated to helping rebellious people-pleasers drop the expectations and find joy, play, and alignment.
Most of my clients could describe themselves as rebels in some way:
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they don't want their relationship to look like the 1950's, they want to find a deep connection with a partner that feels like an equal
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they want friends that feel like family: that have each other's backs through thick and thin
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they want a job that reflects their unique values, whether it's creatively focused, social-justice-oriented, or heart-led
My clients are braver and stronger than they realize. They've been putting everyone else's needs first for so long- that they don't even realize how much they bring to the table.
My clients might not see their own magic, but I sure do. I help them discover the strength they already have and dial it up.
If people-pleasing worked, it would've worked by now. It's time to shake things up. It's time to invest in you.
Fictional AF Client Stories
Lily worked her ass off: studying hard to be the best in her class and fulfill her dream of breaking into the finance world.
Her career was going alright, but her relationship was falling apart. She felt like she was losing herself: she and her boyfriend could not stop fighting. When he would storm off, she would panic, unable to be alone.
She was sick and tired of crying all the time.
It's Not Too Late to Make the Changes You Want
You've been putting everyone else's needs before your own for so long you might not even remember what it was like before.
There is another way through these struggles.
And you don't have to do it alone.
Book a free consultation call to figure out where you want to go and how to get there.
I'm Eleanor
hey there
therapist & somatic coach
I'm a New Orleans-based therapist who specializes in helping people pleasers, survivors of trauma, and couples reduce their stress, anxiety, and live their life in full color.
As both a therapist and a movement instructor, you'll usually find me in my beloved leggings and a t-shirt with paint on it (I have two small children, everything has paint on it). Whether in person or virtual, my attitude is laidback and go with the flow.
But that doesn't mean I'm going to hand you a worksheet and send you on your way. I'm going to roll up my already-paint-covered-sleeves and get in there with you. No topic is off the table: sex? money? cellulite? constipation? All topics for therapy!
I love pop culture and if you head to my blog, you'll see I love to combine pop culture with psychology. In session, I might drop a reference to Drag Race, The Real Housewives, or the latest Beyonce album.
When I'm not working, you'll find me: dancing, lifting weights, or pretending to read while I watch Vanderpump Rules. If you run into me in public, I will 100% be wearing athleisure and chasing my two sons around the block. Sometimes the dog too!
Lily
Lily worked hard on the therapy couch and at home with her boyfriend. She built a toolbox to solve conflict and increase intimacy in her relationship. Their relationship has never been better.
We worked on building her confidence so she was able to develop her own hobbies and friendships. This not only made her life more fun, it also took the pressure off of her relationship.
Alana
Within one session, we were able to see the connection between Alana's physical symptoms and the chronic trauma she experienced growing up.
By treating the cause of her symptoms (the trauma), she was able to get her life back. Her chronic pain & IBS became manageable: she no longer had to waste her PTO on being sick. Instead she got to use it to go on a hiking trip with her new boyfriend.
John
John went back and forth with his ex a few times, but started to realize this man was never going to give him what he wanted.
John found ways to cope with the tough feelings of the breakup and make meaning out of it.
He learned a lot about himself in the process and is excitedly pursuing the dating scene.
My Specialties
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People Pleasers
You've been putting off therapy because you know it'll create a tradeoff- taking time for yourself feels like taking time away from those around you.
You don't think you have any extra time to squeeze out of your already busy schedule. You're worried that saying no to more people would make you mean or lazy. You're pretty certain there's nothing that could be done to fix your problems, not with so many others’ problems to worry about.
Like my clients, you deserve to put yourself first without worrying about letting down your partner, friends, or boss.
A rising tide lifts all boats! You healing will help everyone around you.
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Survivors of Trauma
You've put what happened to you in a box in the way, way back of your mind. Sometimes, you don't even think about it.
But lately- you feel stuck:
your pain and stomach "stuff" is off the charts- you can't go anywhere new in case there's not a public restroom.
You keep having the same argument with your partner over and over- there doesn't seem to be a way out.
Sometimes you feel like you're crazy- like you can't trust your own opinion. You feel the need to constantly ask others for their feedback.
You feel lonely, sad, angry, excited, or happy but you're not in control of any of it.
This is all normal! It is possible to heal from trauma- I've seen it happen many, many times.
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Couples
How did we go from being best friends to strangers?
You can still remember the good times but they're feeling farther and farther away. The commitment you made to your partner is a big reason why you're still around.
Things are starting to feel routine, and not in a good way. If you have the same fight one more time, you're going to lose it. No one is satisfied by your sex life right now. Something's gotta change...
There is a light at the end of the tunnel: couples' counseling. Therapy will help y'all overcome the problems that are getting in the way so we can dial up the connection and fun again.
All Are Welcome!:
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LGBTQIA+ relationships
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Kink/BDSM
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Sex worker-affirmative
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Ethical/consensual non-monogamy, poly, and open relationships
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Couples working through issues with sex and intimacy
You're my kind of client if...
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you always kinda hated people-pleasers, until you realized you were one...
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you want to stop worrying about the future so that you can be present and enjoy your life
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fast casual is for food: not therapy. You want a premium service tailored to you and your needs.
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you don't want any half measures where you waste tons of time and money trying different things: you're ready for results
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you're sick and tired of relationships & friendships dead-ending, they never last as long or feel as good as you thought they would
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you low-key love to curse (or maybe high-key!)
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you're the one everyone goes to when they need to be taken care of: whether that's your job (therapist, sex worker, doctor, nurse), your role (parent, caregiver), or somehow you're the friend group's "unofficial therapist"
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you're ready to do the work to evolve into the person you want to be
THIS
YOU?
to work with Eleanor
steps
Step 1:
Read through my FAQs section before booking a discovery call. This will save us both time by helping you to determine if there’s anything about my style or policies that would prevent me from being the right fit for you.
Step 2:
Schedule your free 20-minute consultation call with me. We’ll get to chat directly, clarify what you’re looking for from therapy, and determine if I’m the best fit for your needs.
Click the link, then click "Request Appointment" and pick a time slot that works for you.
*I am also happy to provide referrals if we decide not to move forward for whatever reason.
Step 3:
If we decide to work together, you'll get scheduled for your first appointment (usually during the consult call but maybe via email after). Then, you'll receive an email before your first appointment with the link to your secure private client portal. You will need to complete this paperwork package before your first appointment or I will be unable to meet with you.
The paperwork package includes a payment form where you include your preferred method of payment. Your card will automatically be charged on the day of your appointments moving forward.
Step 4:
The First Appointment! Yay!
In our first appointment, we'll get to know each other and you'll get me caught up on what's been going on. We'll clarify your goals for our time working together and you'll walk away with clarity, confidence, and hope.
